A year ago today...

I am going to post an update on Lilah in a couple days, I just wanted to post briefly because today it has been exactly one year since we received the diagnosis of Hydrocephalus. I would like to apologize for any grammar and spelling mistakes because I am blogging from my phone due to my computer still being down. I will try to correct them as best I can, but bloggin from a phone is a pain in the butt! First off, I can't believe its been a year, it seems to have flown by. Second, looking back I can't believe how far she's come from where she was. I remember everything about that night crystal clear in my head, the excitement of getting to go to another ultrasound, and how I couldn't wait for Josh to take me out to our favorite sushi restaurant afterwords. I remember the complete and utter shock when the doc told me coldly and casually that there was something seriously wrong with Lilah's brain, and how the outcome was pretty grim. Reading my post from that day brings tears to my eyes, I was so scared of many things, but I think my biggest fear, was the fear of the unknown, and that everything was completely out of my hands. Being that I'm not a godly or religous person I didn't even have the power of prayer or the hope of a miracle to fall back on. I was pretty much hopeless. Reading blogs helped me a little, but even so, I found parents having to deal with so much medically and emotionally and these people seemed much more "together" than I was. I thought there was no way in hell I was strong enough to handle it. Even though I am reluctant to admit this I even had a discussion with Josh abbot adoption, that is how sure I was that this was something I was never going to be able to deal with. I have many regrets about the way I handled things, even if it was out of fear and grief, but I wish so badly I could go back and comfort myself and tell myself it will all be ok. I would say don't waste your nights being up all night crying, because soon your days will be filled with a sweet little girl with an insanely goofy smile. I would remind myself that I am a strong person that has lived a hard life full of obstacles that I have always been able to overcome. You honestly never know how you are going to handle something until it is thrown your way, and having a child born with disabilities is one of these things. I wish I could tell myself how I am going to have a baby girl that is strong and resilient and keeps pushing through the pain and overcoming obstacles that all the experts predicted she wouldnt be able to overcome. Most importantly I think I would tell myself that when you look at her you won't see Hydrocephalus, you won't see a disability, you will just see Lilah, beautiful, goofy, blue eyed, crazy haired Lilah ( : I wanted to end this by stating that one of my main reasons for writing this blog is to show other parents that may have recieved a recent diagnosis of Hydro that it is not the end of the world and that there is hope and light at the end of the tunnel, if I can make one person feel even a tiny bit better, then it will hold a far better purpose than just getting my feelings out. I'll be blogging soon with more great new about Lilah's progress!